I want your sex….

Great video. Words are better than you think.

It’s natural
It’s chemical (let’s do it)
It’s logical
Habitual (can we do it?)
It’s sensual
But most of all
Sex is something that we should do
Sex is something for me and you

Sex is natural, sex is good
Not everybody does it
But everybody should
Sex is natural, sex is fun
Sex is best when it’s, one on one
One on one

Are affairs just about sex?

I’ve said it before, that if you are not getting what you need from your relationship, you will look elsewhere. Certainly that can refer to sex. But it can also refer to your self esteem, your confidence, your sense of self worth, desirability…. Fill in the blank. But it will lead you to seek those things from someone other than your significant other.

Sex was definitely a factor for me.

My Ex and I started dating in high school. Kissing. Touching. Not too much more. Developed into hand jobs. We dated like 4 years and had sex right before marriage. But nothing earth shattering. We learned about sex but it became very clear that she was just not that into it. Now, in defense of the Married Man, this brings up all levels of insecurity. She does not really love me. What’s wrong with me? I’m not attractive. I’m not desirable. I’m doing something wrong. What do I need to do to make her enjoy sex?

I know my first Affair Partner had many of those questions. We were great friends and dated back in high school. When we first got together, after not seeing each other for like 30 years, it was like it was just yesterday. We just picked right up. We met at a book store and talked and walked around. Went to my car and drove and talked. Parked to talk and all of a sudden, she takes off her top! Needless to say, the car fogged up! But our early meetings were just like that. Talking. Kissing. Hugs. More like our high school dates. Then we went to the hotel stage and things went considerably further. The sex was great. I don’t think they were doing all that we did. Her husband was on Viagra but was so cheap, he would only take half a pill!! Our sexual highlight was a Florida trip she planned. When I got there, rose petals to the bedroom. An amazing day, and night of love and sex.

After her husband called my Ex to tell her about the affair, we both still had questions and no answers. Funny thing, we had stopped for some time when he found out and called. I hope she has found answers because she will always be special to me.

Like the song says at the end…

Together
You and me

I want your love

Not just your sex.