Assume the position!
The wife and I have never been much to cuddle for some reason. This probably goes way back to some of her sexual issues and my sexual perversions. We started dating when we were young and back then, sex was not something you just did. You dated, you kissed, you circled the bases and after a while, maybe, sex. We played those games and did have sex before we got married. One of the big things though was the hand job. Guess it was more like you weren’t really having sex.
She got to be pretty good at it and we have used it on and off through the years.
There was a time when just the thought of sex would get instant results. Unfortunately, that has passed, at home at least (have not gotten to try it out anywhere else!!), and something more is needed. So we have fallen back to good old male foreplay. She rubs my stomach, then slowly goes down until she awakens the beast!! Well, ok, it gets a little hard.
So a little time after the catheter came out (and after I had made sure what was going to happen), we decided we could try to do the deed!!!
We start out with the foreplay, hand job and things seem to be going well. Then she comes out with that sexy, “You better get over here if you are coming.” Just about lost the desire right there. But I pressed on.
She took off her flannel night gown and white cotton granny panties and “assumed the position”.
Now this is not everyone’s position but it is generally ours. And you only get one crack at it (so to speak).
Usually, I try to add in a little foreplay myself but since this was a test, I figured we would pass. After some time, actually about normal, I felt that old familiar feeling and it was over. Mission accomplished. Now it was verified– everything works!!
Funny thing, she still got up and went to the bathroom. Nothing to clean up– just force of habit I guess. And still no cuddling!!
Were you looking for a hand…………or applause?
What do you suggest for those of us who aren’t getting that?
Oh…….that’s right!
Now where are you going?
SM or Disney World?
RatherBeMe - April 11, 2012 at 4:22 pm |
I was trying to decide if the comment was positive or neagative. Still thinking…
2Passion - April 16, 2012 at 4:26 pm |
All I can say is that if that were my sex life, I’d pass. Oh right, I already have. My husband tells me I used to be hot, etc. but he does nothing to turn me on. I really want to make love but, I don’t want to have sex. I’d rather act like I’m not interested than to have a mediocre sexual experience. I had a passion with a past lover and, sadly, I fear that will be the last of my life.
Marie L - April 11, 2012 at 11:23 pm |
That is about where I am. The problem is when you have experienced amazing passion, it is difficult to accept just sex. Guess we have to decide what to do. Accept it or try to do aomething about it.
2Passion - April 16, 2012 at 4:24 pm |
2P – First: Bravo!! I’m so happy that you are able to complete the task at hand. (all puns intended)
Second: I remember getting up after sex with my ex-h to go to bathroom. Part of it was because I was prone to yeast/urinary infections and my doctor recommended that I do it; and the second part was because . . . well – that’s why he’s my ex.
My bf/ex-MM had his tubes tied after his second kid was born. What a gift!!! (If is ex-W knew, she would probably have reversed the surgery). In fact, I thought about putting on my on-line dating profile: Only men with vasectomies need reply.
And you take it to the next level. Now you just need to find someone who appreciates you. Oh wait! You had that.
Happy to see you on the road to recovery. (Despite my snarky response).
((hugs))
Susan - April 13, 2012 at 7:24 pm |
TY, Mam!! You are sweet– kinda!!! LOL!!
2Passion - April 13, 2012 at 7:35 pm |